PRIDE GOES BEFORE DESTRUCTION
Mrs Judith
I am 32 years old. I and my Ex hubby dated for six years,
I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We were
best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family, and his family then met, we got married and had
a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems.
started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every
time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain.
My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish to divorce me. I never wanted a divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes.
One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police,
every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I
used to abuse my husband emotionally.
He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to
withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I
pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and
apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.
After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he
remained alone. After two days I received a call that he is in a
hospital, my family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it will
look like am begging him, and my sisters believed he is faking the
illness.
All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being
abused. He spent a week in a hospital after he came out, I just
received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but
because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg
me, I called him and say he will get the divorce because I live like
am in hell.
When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the
court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he
openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together
should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We got divorced in 2009 July. Now, this Saturday my husband is
getting married again, whilst I am here wasted! My family always
gossiping about me, I depend on what my Ex gives to my son for
survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives
to be careful how you get advise. Don’t be cheated. Even my young
sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged
me to divorce are always bad mouthing me. There is no benefit in
pride!
I am 32 years old. I and my Ex hubby dated for six years,
I started dating him whilst I was in grade 12, I was 19 years old. We were
best of friends, I waited until he completed college and started work, my family, and his family then met, we got married and had
a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times, but our problems.
started when I wanted to make him feel he can’t control me. Every
time we argue, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain.
My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he is controlling me I would always dare him that if you wish to divorce me. I never wanted a divorce, I just had pride and I never wanted to look a lose in his eyes.
One day I pushed him so had that for the first time he beat me and lock me out side, I went to my family, my family took him to police,
every time I looked like I am being abused! But to be honest, I
used to abuse my husband emotionally.
He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to
withdraw the case, I felt that what I was doing is wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I
pushed him to the wall. Of which he openly knelt down and
apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.
After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue, and he
remained alone. After two days I received a call that he is in a
hospital, my family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it will
look like am begging him, and my sisters believed he is faking the
illness.
All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being
abused. He spent a week in a hospital after he came out, I just
received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but
because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg
me, I called him and say he will get the divorce because I live like
am in hell.
When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the
court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he
openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together
should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.
We got divorced in 2009 July. Now, this Saturday my husband is
getting married again, whilst I am here wasted! My family always
gossiping about me, I depend on what my Ex gives to my son for
survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives
to be careful how you get advise. Don’t be cheated. Even my young
sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged
me to divorce are always bad mouthing me. There is no benefit in
pride!
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